Sex and Intimacy

Let’s talk more about intimacy and sex. These are important concepts in our relationships . Very important no matter the level of relationship or who they are with. Often times, in relationship , especially in our Ameriacn Society sex is often viewed as intimacy and used as a way of self gratification. People go out to bars, cruise online, cruise the streets, make advances at work all for the sake of having sex and finding intimacy. However, that’s not always the right way.
In building relationships intimacy is vital.

This is especially so if you are dating someone with intention of a long relationship. Intimacy is looking into oneself to find out about ones self. Most important intimacy is sharing ones’ self as we have started before. With this in mind, let’s take it one step more.

Often times, our expression of intimacy is through sex, sexual contact or touch or feelings. In our minds this is how we know to express ourselves when we want to find intimacy. Men, and you know this is true tend to relate sex to intimacy. Women, often times look for an emotional connection. No matter what the mindset, our desire is still to the same to find a deep meaningful relationship that we can share our lives and ourselves.

When our hearts and our minds fully understand this, intimacy and sex take on a new meaning in life. It begins to unfold in ways that we never learned or understood. Into of trying to get intimacy and seeking out partners for this, we find that intimacy is seeking us. And with our partners, we begin to see more of them and their wonderful qualities and how we can please them more. As this intimacy grows, so does our passion and sexual prowess.

Please understand that this is important. As we continue to build intimacy with ourselves sand our significant others the expression of that intimacy results in more than just your average time in the bedroom. As we make time for our partners for dinner, or calling them during the day to see how they are doing, we are building intimacy. We are creating and communicating that they are valued and appreciated.

In this way, our love and intimacy deepens between us. When we listen to our partners attentive and hearing their issues without reservation and judgment then we are creating a deep sense of intimacy. When we are affirming our partners good qualities and affirming who they are, we are creating intimacy. It is this intimacy that fuels the passion of sex and takes it to a new level.

No longer are we looking at our partners as a way of gratifying ourselves, but we are seeing them for who they are. They are seen as the most valueable and precious part of our lives. We begin to understand that our acts of sexual is actually moved into the term of making love, meaning that we are expressing our inner most selves with our partners. This expression leads to a deeper connection that will transcend words or thoughts. It become an unspoken dept of love we cannot even begin to understand. We start to become one.

As we are becoming one we begin to care more deeply about of our partners needs. Not just he needs for sex and physical, but the spiritual and emotional needs. This undersanding also brings to the table of serving our partners and we understand that as we discuss issues of sex and intimacy, that our bodies become no longer our own, but we also our partners. Our minds and spirits seem to be acting as one.
In this way we have built a relationship that will stand the test of time. This relationship will flourish and grow during our times of adversity and challenges. Our marriages will have a strong foundation strength and our families that come out of this will be brought into a loving environment. Also, even if it doesn’t go into marriage, we have built a lasting relationship one that no matter what happens we know one another. We enjoy one another, appreciate the good points over the bad and want the best for our partners.

So sex is important. It is important to talk about. However it should not be the basis of the relationship, but the expression of the intimacy that has been built around it. It is central to any intimate relationship, but must be coupled with a knowledge of pleasing our partner and seeing our partner as they are. We will create a positive, healthy, and supportive relationship that is both balanced and fun. With this understanding, our sex lives will be high energy, passionate, long lasting but extremely satisfying.

Here are some things to think about in all this:

1. Find time to build with your partner. Schedule times to spend especially with them. Regardless of what else is going on, make sure you make time for them and always let them know you are making time for them.

2. Let them know how special they are and how much they are appAffirm them.Appreciate. Create and atmosphere of openness and communication. Let them know when you are having a bad day and just to talk. Hear them out when they need you to. Even though we are self reliant, we need tell them. Tell them you appreciate their minds, their actions, their bodies and the small things that they do. This positive interaction will bring about joy in your marriage/relationship.

3. Say I love you often and mean it. Tell your partner you love them. Mean it. Leave them surprise notes telling them you love them, and be fun about it. Guys don’t be monontonous with the same actions every time, let them know.

4. Shower together. No greater way than to take a shower/bath together and spend time washing each other. This will create sense together and well being of being under the washing of water. Whisper to your partner they are being washed under your love and tenderness.

5. Fix dinner or a picnic. Do something with nature together. Hike, do a picnic - or fix them dinner under the stars. Restaurants are not always the best place, but something simple and more simple can be done to make them feel like a million dollars. Make love under the stars.

6. Celabrate their achievement no matter how small. Always celebrate your partners accomplishments towards their dreams. Every little accomplishment matters. No mater how minute it may be from finishing a paper to celebrating the promotion or degree, celebrate your partners hardwork and effort to achieve their goals. This brings about a renewed self awareness and love them and you.